True Example of being a Sexist, a hypocrite, and a Asshole

Sometimes you need to say a lot of things, but it is best to keep quite. Certain people just don't matter to you, but you are so angry at their inconsistency that you cannot keep quite. Sometimes I feel it's easier to write than to speak to them, because talking mostly turns out to be a never-ending argument, so you might as well just write and pour your heart out, and believe that the person has read it, and though hasn't responded, he exactly knows what you think about him and feel guilty inside.

Well, I have come across a lot of really bad people in my life. I have seen those people who don't respect women, plenty of them in-fact and those who exploit their employees, but I haven't come across someone who has annoyed me so much in the 21 years that I have lived.

It pains to see how a man, happily married, to a women who he choose to marry, can try and get close to his female employee. It pains to see how he talks about the rapes around the city with concern and then explains you how you should behave in 'media field' where flirting is almost harmless. It pains to see how he tries to pep talk with his employees to know exactly how close she is to her family and friends. It pains to see how when one of the females in his office comes with a swollen face and he easily assumes that she has been beaten up by her boyfriend. The mentality just makes me sick.You then try to confront, thinking, he is a human being too, he would understand if explained the discomfort, you and others in the office are facing, but he would just stop doing that with you, as you seemed stronger and a women who would raise her voice, but there were other vulnerable women around, he can very well carry on and spice up his life with them.

He expects you to be in the office well on time, but refuses to pay your salaries on time, ask why, and he has an answer financial issue, I have a treatment going on, and my wife is sick. And right before she giving birth to a kid you announce that your wife is 9 months pregnant. I'm being terribly mean when I put this down here, but he was so ashamed to announce the good news about his wife is pregnant, probably because this child was being given birth just so that he could satisfy his desire of having a male child. Yes, my anger here is getting personal, because when someone requested him to do the salary on time one particular month, due to some financial issues, he couldn't control his rude words and said, "no financial issues are big as mine, you aren't married yet, I'm sure you can manage"

I wasn't going to put this down here, but guess what, he just doesn't stop irritating the vulnerable people, who have already resigned and are happy in their lives. He would still send them some egoistic messages, and ruin their day, probably because he is drunk or he is still not over the fact that all his employees resigned together, and when he relieved them all in an hour, no-body felt even a bit of a regret. Probably this simple fact, will make him a better person, or maybe some people are assholes for life.

I won't care if I have to sit at home all my life, without a job in my hand. What I care about is this should reach him, and deep inside he should feel that anger for being what he is. Mr. Asshole, English language is sure a necessity, but let us first learn to form one simple sentence in English correctly, and then blame others on how you are unable to expand your business because those poor talented souls cannot to talk in English. Hypocrite. 

You ignore, and it will grow louder

Last week, a friend, 19 year old, dared to enter the police station to complain about a boy teasing her in the college. Few months back, she dared to fight those monsters, escape rape, and walk to the police station with her story.

‘Xyz percentage of rapes, harassment, torture on women go un-reported’, I see this changing. She is not going to sit quite now, she will shout, shout on the top of her voice, to get justice, to get freedom, to walk with dignity, head held high. I’m smiling, when I type each word, because I know she is happy, she is confident, and she has the sword in her hand, ready to charge on anyone who points fingers at her.

I walk down the road, I see men staring, I see them murmuring, but I walk, head held high, because I know, no-one except myself, can scare me, the sword is in my hands. No-one but you have the grip, you are the only one who has the control, and no-one can touch you, because you have the sword, that you had kept aside all these years, and now you have picked that up. Walk, walk with our head held high, ignore the monsters, they are cowards, they won’t dare come around you, because you hold the sword in your hand, they are scared of you.

Society? I make the society. I nurture the society. I am the power. Society is just a concept, I define the concept. She defines the concept. No, the society will not change, its I who has to change, who has to constantly hold the sword, and be ready to charge it on those monsters. She only makes the grip firmer, because she won’t back down now, she will only wait, with attention, and charge as soon as those monsters come towards her.

From those discriminations, to the assaults, from that harassment to that torture everything will come to an end, soon. You ignore, and it will grow louder. She won’t shut up now, she will shout, she will charge, she will win, because she is I, and I am she.

The Aarushi-Hemraj Murder Case - A view

Came across a detailed investigation in Tehelka yesterday morning, Have read it thrice already since yesterday. I don’t know how true it is, but as long as Tehelka’s reputation goes, they won’t print anything so serious, with so much confidence in their words. Till last year even I believed the media reports that said ‘The Double murder’ was a honor killing,  but recently, few months back, after reading a lot of reports on honor killings and the rapes around the city, it is a little difficult to believe the honor killing motive linked with the double murder.

As the Tehelka report goes, there are absolutely 0 evidences against the Talwars, and substantially evidence against the aides. I somehow come to believe this, even if I sound biased or irrational, I don’t see the point of killing their only daughter because she was on the bed with their house helper. Firstly, as many such cases I have heard about, the abuse/bad behavior/torture from the side of the family in such cases happens over a period of time before the actual action (killing), but here as per the reports, the Talwar family looked a happy family, with none of Aarushi’s family, friends or even her school’s staff complained of she being depressed or any negative change in the behavior. I don’t believe the fact that a father will get up, pick up a golf club, enter his daughter’s room, just because he heard some noise, and not even think once before hitting her on the head. And even if it did happen, is this one of the evidence the CBI is fighting the case on?

Secondly, After suffering mentally, physically, financially for almost 2-3 years after their daughter’s death, being blamed as the murderers of their only daughter, being almost convicted, no person will want the case to reopen, simply, because if they were really the murderers they would have dreaded conviction, and would have relieved after the CBI closed the case, declared no evidence against Talwars. If the Parents hated their daughter so much, that they killed her, wouldn’t they just get back to their normal lives after the case being declared closed.

Thirdly, the report mentions that the sequence of the crime could possibly be this (confessed by the aides in the narco and other tests) The aides gathered in Hemraj’s room, consumed alcohol, discussed Aarushi, entered Aarushi’s room, and probably tried getting close to her, and her refusal made them hit her. Well, isn’t this believable? Haven’t we heard about all the gang rapes happening around? The fact that they had consumed alcohol only makes a little more believable.

I don’t know if the report is completely true, but read it once, and you will be left with so many questions, and absolutely no trust in the Indian Judicial system, The police and The CBI.

Read here:  http://www.tehelka.com/framed-the-aarushi-hemraj-murder-case-an-investigation/