Since last
several days I have been keeping the track of all the videos, articles,
reports, trolls about Tarun Tejpal molesting a female colleague. I have also
been keeping track about the most sensationalized Aarushi Talwar murder case,
and in both of the cases, the ideas exchanged, the discussions of the possible
situations, outcomes, the statements made, and the real or the made-up stories surrounding
them has amazed me.
Look at, how judgemental we human beings are. We do not care about any proofs and evidences;
all we concentrate on is our beliefs. There is an immense difference between
facts and beliefs, and we fail to understand that difference again and again.
In his statement,
I read on Firstpost, Tarun Tejpal alleged
that the incident was 'only light-hearted bantering which led to a moment of
privacy’ and the victim, post the incident, was out late into the night
attending parties and social gatherings.' No matter what the real story
is, who is right and who is wrong, the statement is so contradictory. The man,
accepts the fact that it was a ‘light-hearted bantering’, which as the tone
suggests is very normal for the educated and open people should be and yet what
follows is ‘she was late out into the night attending parties and social
gatherings’, so what? Someone is disturbed, is out in a professional event,
does not have the time to sit and think what someone she respects has done to
her, what is the harm in going and partying?
Why we are so entangles in our beliefs,
in the rules we have made for ourselves. Why is being disturbed and sad attached
to sitting alone, or getting angry or creating a scene? Why can’t someone who
is molested, have no expression of insult, scare or anger on her face?
Every girl gets molested at least once
in her life, in the hands of someone she knows, how many cases like that have
been reported? I was 14 when I was molested by a family member, he caressed by breasts,
which had just started to grow. I got up from there and kept and sat besides my
mom, and wouldn't leave her hand till we are out of that place. I was still
smiling, playing and talking normally to my mom and everyone around; include
that person who tried molesting me. I expressed my discomfort only after years,
when my family planned to go to their place again, and the plan was cancelled
after hearing what the man of the family had done to me.
Before you make statements, or thrust
the rules you have made in your own mind on others, come to terms with the
reality, with the fact that a women is not always weak, that a women can show
no emotions and yet fight for her rights. Every person is different and has
his/her own way of dealing with things, and in the eyes of law, facts and only
facts are valid, not any belief of self-made conclusions.
